The second marriage can be more successful than the first
Statistics depress: the second marriages decay more often the first. But statistics are not a sentence. Psychotherapist Terry Gaspar is sure: becoming older and wiser, we learn a lot of lessons from an unsuccessful marriage. She calls the 9 reasons why the second marriage may be more successful.
1. You better know what you want to get from a relationship
The experience taught you a lot: now you know what dynamics of relations is the most beneficial for you. The second marriage gives you the opportunity to take this experience from the very beginning.
2.Your decision is based on a conscious choice
When you made a marriage for the first time, you could have tormented doubts: are you doing the right thing? But you still decided to go to this step out of a sense of duty or fear to stay alone.
3. You have learned to take responsibility
If at least one of the partners is capable of this, the relationship may have the future.
It is known that the reactions of one of the spouses in conflict situations directly affect the activity of the brain of another.
Do not be afraid to apologize to the partner if there is anything. Thus, you show respect for his or her feelings and help you both forgive each other and move on. An apology can cure your loved one, even if you wounded him or her feelings inaccurately. If partners avoid discussing dissatisfaction and experiences due to unresolved conflicts, hostility begins to accumulate.
4. You can afford to open yourself to a partner
In a healthy relationship, you can trust your partner, share with him your thoughts, feelings. Since now you do not need to constantly be on your guard, your everyday life will become calmer.
5. You understand how important realistic expectations are
One love is not enough to change a person, his character and education. Suppose to feel more confident, it is important for you to receive signs of attention from a partner. Having loved a person restrained, you will probably be dissatisfied and disappointed. In the second marriage, you can avoid these mistakes if you initially accept your partner as he is.
6.Instead of correcting a partner, you change your own life
Many people are too focused on trying to change the partner, instead of solving their problems. The energy that you spent on these barren attempts in the past, now you can direct to work with your own shortcomings – from this your relationship will only win.